First of all, congratulations on having the self-awareness to recognize your own confusing behavior. Without that awareness, it’s easy to get stuck in a loop of blocking the love you want and ...

Colorado College associate professor Lián Amaris Sifuentes gets ready for her date. Photo by Casey Kelbaugh for The New York Times. How long does it take you to get ready for a date? An hour? Three?

Healing from a breakup isn’t a linear process—and neither is figuring out the signs you’ve moved on from your ex…and are ready to start dating again. As anyone who’s been heartbroken knows, it’s ...